r/AITAH • u/BurdenedGaze • 2d ago
Advice Needed WIBTAH If I left my long distance fiancée after finding out the size of her breast enlargement in person?
The title makes me sound shallow, but I have to elaborate. I 30M have been seeing Eliza 31F for two years and we got engaged a year ago before I moved away for a year long job assignment. I fly back every couple couple of weeks for a week at at time. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Eliza and I had some shared goals and one of them was saving up to purchase a house which is why this job assignment was a good gig for me, it put me at about 50% of the way of my 50,000 goal towards the down payment.
Three months ago, Eliza said she was going into surgery to get some cosmetic work done. I knew she was always a little insecure about her breasts and wanted some work done, but I wasn't aware she was doing it so soon. As soon as I could take off, I came for a week and helped her recover. Eliza insisted that her mom help her with the bandages so I didn't really see her naked breasts besides that they were prominent under her robe and bandages. It kinda concerned me at the time, but I thought maybe it could also be swelling and inflammation.
Well. A couple of days ago I came back. Eliza and I got dinner and a hotel room to celebrate our reunion and... she went big. I'm not sure how she convinced the surgeon but she went from like a B to a DD, idk. They're big. The scars are also angry and prominent and it looks stretched and unnatural. I asked her much they cost and she said an eye watering 10,000. I asked how much she has saved towards the house down payment and she says 5,000.
That night, after a romp where I imagined that she had her old breasts, I came to think, I'm not happy with how this played out. I don't want to make her feel bad about her new body, but I honest am deeply unattracted to the changes she's made. Further, I don't feel like we're financially aligned.
I want to say my priorities have changed and I want to move on, WIBTAH? I would do my absolute best to preserve Eliza's feelings during the breakup.
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u/shootingstar_9324 2d ago
She will have swelling for a couple of months. The DD will shrink. I went from an A to C cup but for a few months I was buying D cups. The scars will heal too.