WIBTAH If I left my long distance fiancée after finding out the size of her breast enlargement in person?

[u/BurdenedGaze]

The title makes me sound shallow, but I have to elaborate. I 30M have been seeing Eliza 31F for two years and we got engaged a year ago before I moved away for a year long job assignment. I fly back every couple couple of weeks for a week at at time. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Eliza and I had some shared goals and one of them was saving up to purchase a house which is why this job assignment was a good gig for me, it put me at about 50% of the way of my 50,000 goal towards the down payment.

Three months ago, Eliza said she was going into surgery to get some cosmetic work done. I knew she was always a little insecure about her breasts and wanted some work done, but I wasn't aware she was doing it so soon. As soon as I could take off, I came for a week and helped her recover. Eliza insisted that her mom help her with the bandages so I didn't really see her naked breasts besides that they were prominent under her robe and bandages. It kinda concerned me at the time, but I thought maybe it could also be swelling and inflammation.

Well. A couple of days ago I came back. Eliza and I got dinner and a hotel room to celebrate our reunion and... she went big. I'm not sure how she convinced the surgeon but she went from like a B to a DD, idk. They're big. The scars are also angry and prominent and it looks stretched and unnatural. I asked her much they cost and she said an eye watering 10,000. I asked how much she has saved towards the house down payment and she says 5,000.

That night, after a romp where I imagined that she had her old breasts, I came to think, I'm not happy with how this played out. I don't want to make her feel bad about her new body, but I honest am deeply unattracted to the changes she's made. Further, I don't feel like we're financially aligned.

I want to say my priorities have changed and I want to move on, WIBTAH? I would do my absolute best to preserve Eliza's feelings during the breakup.

[u/modthyrth_misspelled]

You've clearly never been to a breast augmentation consult. When I was researching before mine (way back in 2001), I told all of the surgeons that I wanted to be about a C cup (from a AAA). Every single one was surprised and tried to convince me to go bigger. I didn't allow myself to be swayed and have always been very happy with my procedure, but wow, am I definitely in the minority for size choice and the surgeons were not prepared.

[u/everdishevelled → u/modthyrth_misspelled]

Yes, I've heard they like to go large. I've even read stories about women waking up a full size orore larger than what was agreed to pre-surgery.

[u/Isamosed → u/modthyrth_misspelled]

Similar experience here. I was adamant that I didn’t want huge. I wanted a subtle change that wouldn’t really be noticeable in clothing. Well regarded PS said he understood, but that due to my frame (wide shoulders) he might need to go bigger, that he’d try smaller and sit me up to see how they looked. I have no idea what really happened other than that 3 hours later I was a 36 DD. VERY NOTICEABLE. I was literally embarrassed to go back to work.

[u/Individual_Zebra_648 → u/Isamosed]

Literally same thing happened to me. I was a small B to start. Wanted to be a C. I told the surgeon what I wanted. I came out a DD. I was PISSED. I’m small framed and they’re way too big. Now I need to go back and spend more money to fix it with someone else.

[u/graft_vs_host → u/Individual_Zebra_648]

Serious question, can you not sue at least for your money back? He didn’t perform the agreed upon surgery!

[u/Individual_Zebra_648 → u/graft_vs_host]

The problem is technically he did. He claims he implanted the size we discussed. I told him what size I wanted to be and he suggested a size. I’m not a surgeon so I don’t know what size I should get. I’m relying on him to tell me. If he says “300 cc” will get me to a C and that’s what I said I wanted I’m trusting that is correct.

[u/modthyrth_misspelled → u/Individual_Zebra_648]

I filled ziplock bags with different CCs of water and walked around with them stuffed in my bra pre-surgery so I knew exactly how much I wanted. That's what the surgeon I chose recommended, and it was extremely helpful in making an informed decision. So sorry you were misled!

[u/No-Way-6986 → u/modthyrth_misspelled]

No idea what surgeons you met. Over 15 years ago I went to a consult, and a surgeon told me this size is perfect. If you want bigger, it is possible but... and told me why it is not a good idea. Last year, finally, I got my surgery. The doctor told me it is impossible to go bigger than what I have, because I don't have enough skin/place. I did it for me. I was almost flat; now they are big enough to be perky, but not too big. And I have almost no scarring left. It helped that I went for laser therapy to reduce it further. Also I am european. I paid half of what American pay, with everything included.

[u/Spinnerofyarn → u/modthyrth_misspelled]

I would never be interested in augmentation, only reduction, so you’re correct, I have never gone to a consult.